Eric's Story
In Loving Memory of Eric Wynn Roberts – by Clare
My name is Clare, and I am Eric’s eldest daughter. I want to share how much Circle of Friends meant to my dad and the incredible difference it made in his life.
In 2017, my dad, Eric, found himself alone and struggling with the sadness of loneliness. I could see him fading, he no longer felt comfortable going anywhere by himself. He missed the simple joy of chatting with others and while I spent as much time as I could with him, my full-time job meant I couldn’t always be there. He needed companionship, especially from people his own age.
My sister Sarah, came across a leaflet in her office about a local coffee and chat morning. After a little persuasion and a personal drop-off at the door from Sarah, Dad agreed to give it a try. To say that first coffee morning changed his life is an understatement! He walked in nervous and apprehensive, but Wendy and Diane welcomed him with open arms, introduced him to the group, and put him at ease.
That evening, when I spoke to him, I could hear the difference in his voice, he was happier, chatting away about the people he had met. For the first time in a long while, he felt part of something again and had things to look forward to. Over the months that followed, I watched Dad flourish. He looked better, brighter, and more engaged with life. He had discovered that he wasn’t alone in navigating
the painful experience of loneliness. Wendy and Diane became the glue that held everything together, making everyone feel valued and special. They went above and beyond, ensuring that no one ever felt left out.
Dad had previously undergone major surgery for oesophageal cancer and had made an excellent recovery. However, the aftereffects meant he could only eat or drink in tiny amounts, which he found embarrassing. Many social gatherings revolve around food and drink and he sometimes felt self-conscious. But Wendy and Diane always handled this with such kindness, ensuring he was comfortable and never made to feel different.
At one of the group events, Dad met a very special lady named Val. She and Dad became friends over their shared seat at coffee mornings and events. They enjoyed each other’s company so much that they started going out independently, visiting
garden centres and having coffee together. This friendship was truly a lifesaver.
When the COVID-19 pandemic hit and lockdowns were enforced, Val moved in with Dad so they could keep each other safe and have company during an incredibly isolating time. Once again, Wendy and Diane stepped up, providing support through phone calls, quizzes, “remember when” letters, and even an adult colouring book with pencils. Dad, much to his surprise, discovered his inner artist!
Thanks to this incredible support system, Dad and Val emerged from the pandemic stronger than ever. He was overjoyed when the group could finally meet again and was determined to attend as many outings as possible. He valued the friendships he had built and wanted to show his appreciation for everything Inspired Friendshipshad done for him.
These were truly happy times. Seeing Dad enjoy life again meant the world to me. It strengthened our own relationship too, as I no longer had to worry about him being alone. He had a full and active social life, which gave us so much more to talk about
whenever we were together.
In November 2023, we received the devastating news that Dad’s cancer had returned. It was a complete shock. He started chemotherapy, and once again, Wendy and Diane were there, not just for Dad, but for Val and me too. Their kindness, thoughtful messages, and unwavering support meant everything during this incredibly difficult time.
On 24th June 2024, Dad passed away peacefully in the wonderful care of Heart of Kent Hospice. My heart broke that day, but I take comfort in knowing how loved and respected he was. His circle of friends visited him right up until the end, ensuring he
never felt alone. That, to me, is the true essence of this group of friends. There are things in life you
cannot put a price on, this is one of them.
In Dad’s own words: “It’s been a godsend.”
From the bottom of my heart, thank you to Wendy and Diane, two of the kindest, most selfless women I’ve ever met, with hearts of gold. To Val and all the other wonderful members of this community. You gave my dad a much happier, more fulfilling life and for that, I am eternally grateful.
Clare